Sex in Virtual Reality
The world of virtual reality is now vast and with seemingly infinite potential to keep unfolding like fractals. The more intricately detailed and immersed in story it becomes, the more enticing it is. Sexuality as an area within it is what I’d love to talk about here as a curious discussion but also a warning.
I’d like to know what you’ve experienced of sexual games offered in the virtual worlds. From what I’ve heard and seen on porn sites as advertisements, there are some hefty misperceptions of women’s sexuality circulating about these forums. Due to great freedoms with creative license, especially with what can be shared through the dark web, warped perceptions of sexuality are being sold in the form of the sex games.
In these sex games, they are made to satisfy sexual urges. There is most often, highly explicit imagery of wanton women, all-too-happy to please and serve men’s sexual desire. These games are so life-like and convincing that the psychological sexual experiences they provide can seem real enough to be good enough. There are sex games that allow you to violently have sex with women in ways that would never be possible in real life without serious fatalities. There are sex games that make a man feel thoroughly sexually validated by digitally animated women constantly praising his cock, performance and appearance. Despite intense vigour, totally disrespectful behaviour and complete lack of love, these animations moan in pleasure whilst being thrown around with pretend cocks inside of them.
Why is this used for erotic stimulation when it’s not real? Dopamine hits. Addictions. Bottomless, black holes of empty desire.
Who are these games created by? Well, there’s potentially a lot of money to be made so there’s that, those who want the moolah. But, also, these games are created out of a thriving rape culture created for men, often by men.
Why would I want to warn you about these? Well if the above isn’t good enough for you; that they aren’t based on reality, that they make addicts and they keep addicts hooked, that they are made for one half of the population in total disconnection from the other ‘real’ half, I’ll keep going for good measure.
These games are soul destroying. They actually weaken a man’s natural virility due to overstimulation of his nervous system and endocrine system. His pleasure becomes bound to psychological stimulation that a woman will never be able to match because it’s not reality. They do not promote healthy ways of navigating love, relationships and sexuality, which is what fantastic, powerful and fucking downright beautiful sex is founded upon. Attraction to virtual reality needs to be tempered with real life efforts at engaging with the world and it’s warm-hearted human inhabitants. These games don’t make sense for when it comes to trying to attract a real life woman but perhaps that’s not the goal anyway if one’s self esteem is so low that they don’t believe they have any other option.
Another thing I’d like to share is that it’s really crucial to be so aware of what you are allowing into yourself by condoning these things. They influence your subconscious and therefore your behaviours, unless you have a highly disciplined, conscious mind. It's one thing to have these things in a fantasy world but it's another very real thing to be influencing people's minds and actions by sharing this content. And it does, too easily and naturally. There's abundance of sexual violence and misbehaviour out there. Things like this don’t help with resolving that.
Knowing where the boundaries lie within our own psyche and body and that of others takes time and conscious practice and this is not something the majority of the world’s population is up to date with. In untrained minds, people seek pleasure and excitement to no end. They test the boundaries constantly and how far they can go. This is not a nice energy to be on the receiving of, especially as a woman in the realm of sexuality.
Sex on screen can also be a very toxic conditioning for men and women with their body shapes and sizes. A lot of men are convinced to believe their penises need to be bigger because "bigger is better" to get good sex with penis enlargers and all sorts of supplements claiming to boost natural size. Women get plastic surgery to enhance their breast size and trim off long labia lips and laser all hair down there to look "neater" and prepubescent.
Are these the ideals we want to be following?
Can you realise that these are only temporary fixes to the innate lack of self love and respect you hold? Could we first try to ask from where these painful truths and feelings arose before compounding them with these harmful distractions?
Also, a massive cock isn’t something to be so proud of. It’s just anatomy at work. Some of these men hold a ridiculous amount of pride, fashioning themselves as sex gods. In actuality, many women can't long tolerate or even fit big penises. They can cause great pain, create tears and internal bruising to vaginal tissues, which left untreated can lead to all sorts of complications and vaginal tensions for women. A woman needs to be relaxed, open and receptive to a man with a large penis for sex to be pleasurable at all.
Further, hyper-sexual imagery of women is shallow and truly deprives her of the opportunity to be truly seen and acknowledged with clear eyes for her uniqueness, natural beauty, diverse skills and intelligence. This results in an incomplete, objectified image of woman. Both men and women struggle with when they are influenced by stereotypes of how women should look and act.
Men come to expect something of women and receive violent rejections, disappointments and disempowerment when women don’t want to or can’t fulfil those expectations. They may end up back in virtual reality because of it and so the cycle continues in a downward spiral.
Women suffer in silence and stifled self-expression because they can’t get men to see and uphold their natural beauty. They can also limit their creative and intellectual potential by placing expectations on themselves to be certain, sexually desirable ways for men.
I could go on but I’ll cap it there. I know this is not an uplifting read. It’s a reality check and it could be more necessary for you than you realise, even if not directly. These themes are what we are facing in the world with emerging modern, technologically advanced cultures. It’s important to be clued in about what is happening and the effects these things are having on us an individuals. Ultimately we want to be happy, feel inner peace and a sense of winning at life. Would you agree? Well if so, let’s keep it real. There’s so much richness to explored and harnessed in this wonderful reality.
