Oxytocin

Naturally we crave affection and physical intimacy as humans and sentient beings. Affection through physical touch provides us with what is known as oxytocin, also known as the "trust hormone." Oxytocin is released in the brain under stress-free conditions and naturally promotes sleep. It counters the effects of cortisol, known as the "stress hormone."

Oxytocin is known to have a soothing effect on the mind and body, and generates an attachment to those we are in close contact with. Interestingly, on the flip side, for those we aren't close to - outsiders more or less - it can actually decrease cooperative behaviour and foster fierce and protective behaviour. It can amplify emotional memories, whether the emotions are positive or negative. Studies indicate that it also inhibits tolerance to addictive drugs, including opiates, cocaine and alcohol. It also reduces withdrawal symptoms. It's a cure for craving as it provides a deep overall sense of satisfaction, effectively eliminating the need for substances outside of the body. It can also improve generosity and altruism.

Oxytocin produces the feeling of being safe with others, of feeling trust, loved and supported. We don't always acknowledge these messages because the cortex overrides them with vicious cycles of thought and emotional blockages most commonly due to past trauma. That's why it’s also important to mention that when we have a solid bond with our partner, in family if possible and in friendships wherein we can be vulnerable, open and released from emotional binds and depression, this allows us respite from the rigours of the world. Otherwise we have a defensive veil up all the time with everyone, be it our lover, friends, family, work colleagues and every other random person we collide paths with across our days. This is utterly exhausting for the nervous system. Home and body need to feel safe and soothed to maintain happiness, health and harmony.