Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones traverse the whole body and build in particular potency where the nerves gather in closest arrangements across and just under our skin. In practice, a tantrika is able to orgasmically engage their nervous system and energy body by stimulation to just about any part of the body due to their acute awareness and activation of their sensitivity. They don’t need stimulation to only certain areas of abundant sensation for their arousal. However, as a starting point for developing the practice of orgasmic awakening, body sensitivity and awareness through intimacy techniques, these are some areas of special interest:

Lips

As an incredibly strong pole of the body, when the lips are stimulated, they trigger a powerful awakening of the heart and sex centres of the body. Such is the power of a prolonged loving, passionate kiss that its stimulation also extends throughout the rest of the body. When the lips are kissed, loved, caressed and honoured in and out of hours they become a pulsating and radiant centre of pleasure. The lips are the go to for courting and lovemaking. Knowing how to kiss them, with love, passion and tenderness, truly romances the soul. Tease and tantalise them, touch them ever so lightly with your fingertips, a rose, the tip of your tongue, your lips. Play with them and get creative. Explore the many ways of using lips in the art of kissing.

Ears

Unusually arousing sensations can be found by stimulating the ears. Use your tongue and lips to the lobe and whole edge of the ear. The ear entrance can also be tongued. It’s highly sensitive, often ticklish and sometimes uncomfortable on the receiving end but it awakens the nerves in the ears which send tingles into the neck and down. It also distracts one from holding any unintentional tension in their lingham or yoni or around those areas. The body cleared of tension is the best way to expansive orgasmic bliss. Ear kissing is a sneaky addition to foreplay and it builds intensity and spread of orgasmic sensations during sex.

Neck

The neck, like the lips, is an easy and common place to go to for building arousal. The neck is a special area and very sensitive not just due to the nerves that cluster around it but also due to the fact that it’s one of the few most vulnerable parts of the body, being made of mostly soft tissues, with the precious areas of the trachea for breath, arteries for blood flow to the brain, and oesophagus for our sustenance exposed when we open it up for others. Allowing your lover access to your neck is all the more exciting for your nerves and energy body. Kiss it, lick it in long and short strokes, gently suck at it. Lavish your love into it.

Nipples

The nipples, whilst commonly sensitive, aren’t sensitive for all. Check in with your partner to see how theirs are. They can be kissed, licked, blown on, touched with feathers and fingertips, tweaked and gently pulled. Anything more intense or firmer than that should always come with consent. This area commands deep respect. Biting and pulling hard doesn’t feel nice for everyone. Nipples, for the most part, need to be treated with delicate care. Also, the nipples form part of the heart pole, meaning that this area is a strong centre of activation in the body for energetic stimulation and flow, which follows throughout the rest of the body. The heart centre can be called into awakening with stimulation to this area. Essentially, the loving tug upon the nipples is the tug upon the heart to activate it into passionate, open and alive alertness with and for one’s lover.

Underarms

This area is usually too ticklish to touch for many, however, approached carefully and seductively can be a wonderful way to stir the body into sexual awakening paired with approaches to other areas. Try feathers and fingertips. Try massaging here and around the rest scapula edge. Some sexual partners love to kiss and nuzzle in here due to their lover’s body odour and pheromones being an additional magnet of sexual attraction.

Side Waist

This area is often very ticklish for many. The waist can be lightly caressed with fingertips. The tongue can be dragged along it and it can be kissed to tantalise your lover. It’s a beautiful form of touch to use the sides of the waist as handles for tugging and pulling your partner in towards you whether in lovemaking, in foreplay or even out and about for some excitement and mild erotic stimulation. It can be used with sexual positions to build connection and also for subtle control, which can amplify the eroticism in the intimate play.

Sacrum Dimples

Massage them with the palms of your hands or thumbs in circles lightly to firmly depending on what your lover likes. You can also gently use your knuckles in circles over them for a massage technique, in continued circles spiralling inwards and then outwards extending to other parts of the sacrum area. A lot of tension can be held here and the lower back. It’s relieving to release it and prepare the body for further intimacy and erotic play.

Buttocks

The buttocks can be very softly touched with your fingertips, feathers and lips to get the lover into their body and out of their head. Kiss them, gently bite them, grip them with your hands and fingers firmly to let your lover know your presence is with them. Massage the buttocks with your palms, thumbs, forearms and elbows in circular and swirling motions. Test how deep to go in your massage by checking in with your lover. Some also like to slap or be slapped here during sex for a touch of kink.

Inner Thighs

The nerves of the inner thighs form the gateway to the nerves of the genitals. Soft caresses and kisses here work a lover into a dreamlike sensual state, riding them toward and onto the edge of orgasm at times. Massage also works well to ease out any tension that may have built-up over time or tension that arises from nervousness with intimate connection.

Perineum

Light fingertip strokes and sometimes deeper massaging presses work well here. This is also an area that can be licked and kissed, including moving toward the anus, if that is something you feel comfortable with.

Scrotum

Gentle strokes with fingertips around them and under them. Some like to kiss them and softly suck them and put them inside of the mouth so he can feel the wet and soft warmth and let that bring him to stronger arousal.

Outer Vaginal Lips

Gentle strokes, soft kisses and suckling of the outer vaginal lips triggers wildly tingling sensations to enter into the pelvis and rest of the vulva. The application of wet and soft warmth here encourages circulation as well as the engorgement of blood to the lips, clitoris and surrounding areas due to awakening arousal. The lips can be massaged softly and soothingly in upward and downward strokes or even gently pulled at along their lengths.

Feet

The feet have tens of thousands of nerve endings in them that reach right through to the soles, which makes them a valuable avenue of erotic stimulation and also a very valid fetish of many people. They can be incredibly ticklish for some people, especially if their skin on the soles of their feet is soft. Play with fingertip caresses, massages, sucking of the toes and tongue in between the toes (ideal if they’re clean, of course!). Some even love to nibble upon the feet and toes gently.

Fingers & Palms

As a delicate expression of burgeoning intimacy, the fingers are a special means of communicating deeper passions and intimate intentions. The fingers and hands of fresh lovers may play with each other and intertwine curiously and affectionately as lovers kiss and learn new things about each other. It is a secret signal to gently tickle the palm with a finger whilst shaking someone’s hand to indicate sexual attraction and desire to be intimate. Fingers can also be kissed and sucked as a part of foreplay due to their sensitivity. The palms are also very receptive to touch. Try pouring warm oil onto your lover’s open palm and then work into it with massage. It feels soothing and relieving but it can also feel highly erotic if the intention is there to bring on that kind of arousal.