Sex On Screen
WHEN SEX IS PROVIDED TO YOU ON SCREEN, PLEASE CONSIDER THESE THINGS:
➳ Porn comes from a website designed to pull all of your attention into it.
This can seriously detract from the time and focus you spend outside of it on your health, your relationships, your lovemaking and your overall life development. Also, forget about fulfilling your dreams or your highest potential with it if you are not investing your time more wisely in the real world.
➳ Every video is a story that has been fabricated to stimulate you on a purely psychosexual level.
These stories whilst having happened on film, are not based on reality. They're not truth. And yet, to be stimulated purely on a psychological level for sexual arousal by an external source will condition you to be stimulated only in this way, which will prevent a healthier engagement in sex with an actual person.
➳ Porn is given to you, most often freely, which means you don't have to work hard for it.
The only thing you have to work for is an internet connection and a private enough space to self pleasure. As it's already thought out for you, your mind does no work in developing itself or it's individual strategies in lovemaking.
Maybe it will give you ideas of things you can do but most often these things will disconnect you more from your lovers because you're not actually tuning into them and what they are ultimately wanting from you intimately. Your lovemaking strategy has to be about reading body language if you want to be successful in cultivating deep and powerful, loving and respecting sexual states with your lover, not thrusting upon someone what you think they want because of what you've seen on a screen.
Also, as it's given to you, it detracts from building your natural confidence in going outside in the world, meeting people, facing rejection, moving past rejection realising it doesn't define and learning new ways of doing things until you start to understand how to connect with others.
➳ Porn is not about heart.
Your heart, whilst ever presently beating, closes down or deactivates, essentially to lie dormant in your chest when you develop a porn addiction. Perhaps it might be stimulated and develop an attachment to particular porn stars, however, the relationship you develop inside of your head with them is a delusion. Usually, your heart is sitting inside of you grieving as you neglect it for preference of touching your genitals. It doesn't receive the loving nourishment and nurturing it may well be yearning for that can only be found with the presence of another heart by it.
