Respect in Sex

Respect in sex is the foundation for cultivating loving, nurturing intimate experiences with lovers.

Respect in sex is a mutual exchange. It’s not a one way handover from one to another.

Respect in sex requires you and your partner to communicate clear boundaries and intentions you want for yourselves. You must honour your partner’s boundaries to create a safe environment for you both to comfortably unfold and to allow the conscious and gradual relinquishing of boundaries when you are ready. This is how loving bliss, only available in true and meaningful vulnerability with one another, can be experienced.

This respectful way of connecting to your sexually intimate lover differs from relationships that disrespect, degrade and dishonour other individuals and ultimately yourself. When you act with disrespect you’re treating your lover in an exploitative, manipulative and inconsiderate way. Within this act of disrespect, you’re treating your lover as if they are a controlled possession for your own perceived benefit.

Disrespect happens if you use sexual experiences as stress relief and a means to dump your emotional energy without truly considering the other and their feelings. Also, when you do not acknowledge the other’s presence and what it takes for them to open themselves in vulnerability, naked with you as your lover.

If it seems easy for you to have sex with a lover and not feel any love or emotional stirring, this means you are blocked in your body, heart and emotional/feeling centres. There will likely be hidden pain within you that prevents you from allowing yourself to truly feel.

Sex is the beautiful act of unifying with another individual. When you disrespect the other individual you divide, ruining the passion, desire and gift of sexual intimacy.

Lovers are not to be treated like achievements, conquests or emotional dumping grounds.

If your lover is naive, that does mean it gives you license to treat them with disrespect or exploit them.

How are you judging your lovers? How much of your judgements slip from your mouth and create damage for them?

Your wreaking of damage due to inner pain should not be brought forth in intimate circumstances. These circumstances are some of the most vulnerable circumstances humanity finds themselves in. We do not need more harm done here than goodness.

If you’re of a sexually adventurous nature and you don’t seek a committed relationship, it’s still important to provide respect and clear communication about what your intentions are.

If another is disrespecting you, don’t be afraid to call them out on it. If the fear is too great to speak up, surely find it within you to move away and walk on to a better circumstance.

Today we live in such a fast paced culture where the competition for material gain becomes more intense and tougher to deal with. So many people flake at the pressure of having to hold up an identity as well as self protection because there are so many things threatening to fragment us. This could just come down to daily distractions cluttering the mind space and destroying intuition. Along the way, we crave affection and connection, but at what cost? The cost of our dignity, our self respect, our self love and honouring?

It easily happens that we don’t take the time to truly connect with ourselves to see if who and what we're choosing to interact with on such intimate levels is actually really aligned with our core values and desired path.

Feeling the blissful ecstasy and awakening that sexuality can provide us brings natural vitality, radiance and an exuberant perspective to life. To experience this, respectful energy is needed.

Make sure you bring love and respect into intimacy. For yourself, for your own heart, for others' hearts.

When both lovers prioritise respecting one another, they fully surrender to integrity, unified wholeness and purity of sexual experiences. Respect in sex is fuel for sacred sexual energy that flows between you and your lover, without consuming them or being consumed, so that both your true individual and relational distinctiveness are amplified, further enhanced and developed.

Respect in sex is a vital aspect of any sexual relationship you hold with another. Embrace its power by actively creating a space where both you and your partner feel comfortable, safe and seen.

Respect in sex elevates sexual experiences to new heights by holding space for loving, trustful and intimate connections.

Respect in sex is a harmonious dance of openness, honesty and understanding.